October 10, 2025
When You Finish a Creation, You Change the Shape of What’s Possible
The truth about creativity is that you have to finish the thing and share it for its full power to activate. Until then, it stays in a kind of limbo: beautiful, important, magical, but unable to ripple outward. While I was still creating The Patchwork Girl, new ideas were already arriving a new book, a course, workshops, parties…
October 9, 2025
Creativity Asked for Blood
The truth about creativity is that it’s not the technical work that’s hard it’s the soul-exposing part, the standing-naked-in-the-town-square part, the “here’s a piece of my insides, please be gentle” part. Finishing my book, The Patchwork Girl, took me four years not because I didn’t have the drawings or…
February 6, 2023
Community, give or take?
This community I’m in. The one I’ve always known. It held me close for all my life. Keeps me safe and I feel loved. Now I am growing. I am changing and I wondering will I be cast out if I change too much? What is the cost to my this safety If can not…
January 30, 2023
Autonomy and collaboration. Super specialists
Some people talk too much! Some people don’t say much at all! It’s not that there is a right or a wrong to it. I love that everyone has different styles. What I note though is style of communications are important to understand when working together and or collaborating towards and outcome. There is this…
January 28, 2023
I have often felt guilty about being loud and extrovert
I try to be very aware of introverted people and their energy. I am aware the social interaction is draining for them. I’m the opposite! I get so much energy from people, more from the interesting and energetic ones that I connect well with. I don’t like or need very much time on my own.…
January 3, 2023
Structures required for basic Human needs to allow for expansion
Our lives are often complex and nuanced, filler with stuff and activity. So too are our homes and desks. How much of this do we need.How much of this is adding to our experience, and then what is getting in our way and inhibiting our experience and getting to a place where we can really…
December 30, 2022
No one can help you if they can’t see what you are doing.
I’ve felt frustrated that people won’s see how to help crate or complete a project in the way I want. I’ve also felt frustrated when I’ve tried to help someone else and I am so unclear about what to do, or the scope of the work. I feel helpless, even though I have more than…
November 13, 2022
Speaking your truth. Finding your desires
Have you ever felt like speaking your truth will hurt other people or destroy things that you have created? I’ve felt this. Filtering what I think I should say, or not say to someone. Feeling myself holding things back for fear of the outcome. I don’t believe that everyone needs to know everything about everyone!…
November 9, 2022
Stretching and expanding
Stretching and expanding! I’ve been struggling and fighting myself. It hurts! I’m scared! It feel like I can’t fit! I don’t know if can get out! Feeling like I am constantly growing and changing as I become more aware. But I am still fighting myself! I don’t want to feel all the feelings. I don’t…
November 4, 2022
I’m staring at my Dragon
I’m standing here staring straight at my ego dragon! I’m so scared! This dragon cannot be slayed.This dragon is part of me.She can be pacified though.That I can move past her. I stare into her eyes.I see my fears.i feel them, trembling and shimmering within my body.I want to run,but I want to get through.…
October 28, 2022
Would I choose myself?
Would I choose myself? The way you choose you. I love you. You love me. You are leaving because you choose yourself. You know where you need to be. What you need to do. Would I choose myself? Do I love me that much? I fear I don’t. I fear it more than I fear…
October 28, 2022
The Patchwork girl – free in love
The warmth of the tears running down my cheek is comforting as I stitch a patch over my weeping heart. This patch of love for a man who has coloured my being and influenced my life greatly. He still does. The tear run down my face and onto my dress and make the colours twinkle.…
October 19, 2022
I am an artist
“I am an artist” I yelled across the room today while interviewing the Graduate Engineer at work. Wow! That was enthusiastic! …and why am I yelling? Who am I yelling at? … I think it’s me! I’ve always been an artist. I think like one. I look like one. I act like one. But I…
October 18, 2022
Elaborate hiding + incongruence of self
I’m writing a story. It’s called The Patchwork Girl. It’s a story about hiding yourself away and pretending to fit in based on your perception of other people’s interpretation of you and your assumed expectations. I’ve done this. A lot. Really well! I do it this still. I’m actively quitting as a daily practice. I…
October 9, 2022
Metrics as a way to govern your own development and decision making
Life is full of fun and there is plenty of FOMO. I am the kind of person who wants to try everything, have every single experience once. Take a bite from ever cake, every piece of fruit. I want tones of lover and friends, relationships, networks, connection and experiences. There’s simply isn’t time for everything!…